Unfairness (noun): lack of equality or justice.
Justice (noun): the appreciation, recognition and respect of the rights and merits of each individual.
Let's look further into this wound and see how we take action or not to make our world a better place.
Are you a good ancestor?
Unfairness yesterday, today...
Some of us live a life where unfairness is constant. Everyday, they feel an injustice in one way or another. Many examples come to mind: a black person struggling to find a hairdresser, being shot for being at the wrong place in the wrong moment; a girl asked to bring the coffees when she is the consultant who'll be chairing the meeting; a Muslim whose loss and pain is horribly dismissed because some terrorists happen to claim their faith in Islam, etc, etc.
Justice is define by Human beings. We created those rules. Some rules come from religious beliefs, some from life in society to create a frame and assess what is tolerable and what is not when a country's population increases significantly, but all those rules have been written by a human hand. For this reason, for the purpose of this article, I will put aside religions and focus on Human behavior:
Humanity (noun) : the quality of being humane; benevolence.
Synonyms of humanity: compassion, brotherly love, fellow feeling, humaneness, kindness, kind-heartedness, consideration, understanding, sympathy, tolerance, goodness, good-heartedness, gentleness, leniency, mercy, mercifulness, pity, tenderness, benevolence, charity, generosity, magnanimity.
I would like to invite you to look around, every day and look for humanity. All of us are now used to unfairness and we became hermetic to it. It simply does not touch us anymore. We built an armor so tough and thick to protect us that we are now rigid, we struggle to open our mind to even discuss those topics. It is too hard to admit how much we participate into this lack of Humanity and it is too hard to start thinking about "How can I change my behavior and can my behavior then change the world?".
This is where we got it all wrong. It is not about changing the world, it is about changing our world. Just the tiny bubble we live in. This cute space where we have our children, friends, colleagues, cats, dogs, etc.
First, start noticing the things you can be grateful for: you job, your health, your home, your children, their education, the opportunities they'll have, the opportunities you have whether professionally, personally, the travels you do, the things you can afford, the recognition you get from your loved ones, the kindness you receive daily whether from the stranger making your coffee or your partner, etc, etc. These are your privileges.
Privilege (noun): a special right, advantage, or immunity granted or available only to a particular person or group.
Second, start noticing who around you have the same privileges as you, less privileges than you, more privileges than you. You will start drawing a map and an understanding of the injustice surrounding you.
Third, now that you have a bigger picture of the unfairness in your environment reflect on how you feel about this:
- How do you feel about people who have more privileges than you?
- How do you feel about people having the same privileges as you?
- How do you feel about people having less privileges than you?
Last but not least, are you gonna do something about it?
We rise by lifting others
What kind of ancestor are you? Will you do something to bring more humanity into this world, more justice, more compassion, more self-reflection or are you just another one of those people who talk about unfairness at diner with their friends and just end the conversation by brushing it all off because the dishwasher needs loading and you have to go to work tomorrow?
Mother Therese said : "Hands that work are better than lips that pray", hence why I put aside religions and focused on Humans.
By following those 4 steps, I hope that each of us will begin to add his or her stone to the edification of a fairer world:
- Acknowledging our own privileges
- Assessing the privilege situation for the people around us (more/equal/less)
- Reflecting on our feelings towards the different levels of privileges
- Taking action towards the creation of a world where everyone can access the same privileges by doing the same actions and without being discriminated in any way.
.. Tomorrow let's heal the world
I believe that we all suffer from injustice in one way or another. This wound is here to teach us that we are one. That closing our eyes to the pain, suffering, injustice that is happen around us does not protect us from it at all.
Unfairness teaches us that we need to take action. Even though an injustice might not be our fault, it is our responsibility to make things right. Not only for the victims but also to be a good ancestor, to start showing the younger generations that injustice is everyone's issue, not just the people suffering from it. To show that each and everyone of us can bring more balance into this world by standing up for our values, our beliefs. To make it the most natural thing to love thy neighbour.
The wound of unfairness is here to remind us of our Human nature: compassion, brotherly love, fellow feeling, humaneness, kindness, kind-heartedness, consideration, understanding, sympathy, tolerance, goodness, good-heartedness, gentleness, leniency, mercy, mercifulness, pity, tenderness, benevolence, charity, generosity, magnanimity.
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