How to improve self-esteem?

Updated: May 22, 2019


Recently I have started sharing my knowledge about the chakras on my Instagram. This made me reflect again on how psychology, spiritually and self-development are interdependent.

Study of myself

As I go back on my notes and books, studying the Root and Sacral chakras, I notice how my interpretation of these chakras has evolved through time. In fact, within a year since I dived deeply into these topics for my yoga teacher training, I have read even more books about other topics such as psychology, self-development, etc. and it has influenced my thoughts.

The proximity of these two chakras in the lower limbs of our body, suggests to me how close we are to each other. I see the Root chakra as “I” and the Sacral chakra as “You”.

In my roots I nurture and grow my beliefs, my ideas. My roots influence directly the way I talk to myself, the way I treat myself. In the last 6 years I have done so much personal work through therapy, coaching and self-development that I have explored my roots as much as “I” can. Every time I had to go deeper into it was because of “You”.

You and I...How different are we?

When a word or an action I receive makes me happy, to be honest, I don’t dwell too much on it. I enjoy the pleasure created by it. I swim in the waters of my Sacral chakras with joy. On the other hand, when words or actions hurts me, I must overcome my fear, my pain probably my anger and plunge deeper into my waters, my feelings. Going on a quest to find the roots of my disturbing feelings. Very often finding the root of a pain, leads me to understand the root of the pleasure too...

Let me give you an example. I was in a relationship where my partner was often telling me to go to the gym, eat less crap food, go for a run, to stop wearing clothes which would lay the emphasis on parts of my body that he did not like much. I used to beat myself up for not going to the gym, eat crap food, wearing what I thought was the wrong clothes. At the time my words towards myself were :“I am ugly”, “Oh gosh I look horrible, let’s get changed. I can't possibly wear this!”, “I need to lose weight”, “I need to go on a diet”, “Oh this girl looks so good, I wish I was like her”. I gave power to those words that were given to me. I decided to believe that I was too fat to wear this or that. I cried when I was told off for not going to the gym. My feelings reflected how I felt deeply: ugly. His words were a mirror of my thoughts towards myself: painful, mean. I realized the quality of my words only when I left him. It was easy to think HE made me feel like crap. The truth was painful, and it took me time to admit it. But HE did nothing more than say out loud what I was telling myself in the quiet of my mind. More than anything I had to forgive myself to be able to move on and build up my self-confidence body parts, by body parts. A few years later I feel much more comfortable with myself. I took back my power by getting close to my pain. I can now freely swim into the outside world and people still have comments about my body, but my roots are strong, those comments do not affect me anymore.

How "You" help me to improve myself?

The waters of the Sacral chakra are where we look at ourselves through the eyes of "you" and check whether what we see is satisfying for us. Then it is up to us to dive back in if we don’t like what we see. To use our Power to change our world.


Photo by Martin Sattler on Unsplash

Remember the 4 agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz? (if not check my IG page and/or get a copy of the book). The Agreement one is key when I think about the Root and Sacral chakras:

Be impeccable with your words

Always soften your words towards yourself. Because what you think, you become.

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Sawubonasana is a space where you can be yourself, recognized and loved just the way you are. Sawubona means "I see you and by seeing you I bring you into being", Asana means posture, way of living. I've chosen this name for my website because I want to live a life where I see you, I acknowledge your existence and love your uniqueness. In this space you can love yourself, lick your wounds and heal them with love and compassion. You can book a coaching session with me by clicking here.

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